Preparing for a new baby is relatively straightforward – there are lists online of what to buy, you attend antenatal classes & there is a whole lot of support out there for you! Preparing a Toddler for a new baby is slightly more daunting! We started preparing Mini Meldrum for the arrival of her little sister early on – from about 12-15 weeks. I had HG so wanted her to know why I felt so poorly and why I was constantly vomiting & a bit of an un-fun Mummy.
We started off by purchasing a selection of books & then also received a couple from friends so we have a fair old collection. After we had read one of the books for the first time I asked Safiyah if she would like to be a big Sister? Her response was a huge grin & a very enthusiastic “Yes”… so that was the hard part. We then explained that Mummy had a baby growing in her tummy & that’s why she was feeling poorly & very tired & also why we have to be very careful with mummy & more gentle around her tummy.
- talk about baby
- get toddler talking to bump/giving kisses & explaining that her new sibling is growing in there but can hear her.
- let them help ‘organise’ clothes, nappies, baby bits
- read books about having a sibling
- spend time around friends babies
- point out siblings you see out and about
Safiyah has embraced the whole baby thing way more than I ever thought she would at 2. She often asks to feel the baby kicking, has conversations about what colour hair she will have (blue or pink incase you’re wondering) & loves helping me ‘organise’ the baby clothes.